Recently I was in an interview, and my interviewer kept harping on the fact that I am “So well spoken”. Every time he said this, I could feel my eye begin to twitch. All of my life I have heard this phrase and it was meant as a compliment, but it wasn’t until I was older that I realized that this was a form of micro-aggression.
Once I realized this, I asked my caucasian friends if they have ever heard this from family members or from interviewers. Literally each and every person I asked looked at me like I had five heads. “What are you talking about?” they asked, “…you can’t be serious, people don’t say that to you….do they?” OHHHH but my friends I am serious! This happens to me all the time. On interviews, at networking events even when I go on dates. This phrase haunts me everywhere I go! Arg!
If you look at the picture to the left you will see other phrases that accompany this notion of “You’re so well spoken” and yes…people do say this.
But it was nice to know that I am not alone! MTV news created a video addressing this issue. Check it out!